I often find myself keeping silence over something that I should be speaking up about. I don’t know why I keep silence , it could be because I love my friend and I want to cover for her, or I know she is in the wrong and I just want to be able to help her out. Either way I know I am doing wrong. I shouldn’t be keeping quiet over something that needs to be spoken out about.
I know, maybe it is just who I am. I am not the type of person to throw my friend under the bus, but by covering up for her I am only causing more problems that are not required right now.
My heart and mind admit it loudly in front of everyone that my friend is in the wrong, but I just don’t find the strength to open my mouth and speak my heart and minds words.
Such a complicated scenario is going on around me, but I just can’t seem to find the proper solution to my problem. Technically it is not my problem I am just withholding information to cover for my dear friend.
She has such a sweet essence to her, she is so innocent, but one mistake can change everything overnight. I can’t keep my silence any longer I hope she understands. Deep down I know she will forgive me, but it will take her time.
This is not an easy decision for me either. A million thoughts are drifting through my mind. Half are positive half are negative, but I don’t believe negative thoughts help anything. Negativity only causes more problems.
I can’t keep my silence any longer, because I am only causing stress and headaches to myself, and hiding the truth is never the answer.
My door is always open to you my dear friend. You might keep your distance at first, but I know we are so close we will reunite and be stronger together later on.
I hope you enjoy reading!
give her a chance to save face, and talk to her in private about it.
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Yes! But I can’t hide the truth if I know it is detrimental to be told.
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unless it’s a life or death ‘right now’ situation, you can pull her aside and talk to her. give her a chance to save face, and where she can change her mind in public and say it herself. if she gets pissy with you, then it’s all on her.
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Exactly. Always talk through all your options and possibilities, but you are right it is not my secret to tell!
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I’m not saying to just let it slide either. Give her a chance to save face and change her opinion, if it’s worth bothering with.
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Good point! Thank you for your good advice. I will use it. I can’t let my friend go through something if it is not necessary. 😊😄😊
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It’s so good 😊 sometimes to hear someone views that on the outside looking in..
when we are that close to it. We can’t see too clearly..
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I know. It is always good to have someone else’s view or points as well. It comes in hand very nicely 😁
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You know I always love how you use your mind! And how you write. I know you are not asking for advice here, sounds like you made up your mind. I would only suggest to do what Ben Franklin did when he had a difficult decision to make: he folded a piece of paper in half and wrote PROS in one column, CONS in another. Whichever list was longer, that’s what he went with, and he never second guessed it. Maybe try it here, or not, try later with something else, or not. Just take good care of YOURSELF.
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Hmm 😒..
Rob that was a great 👍 advice
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Thank you. It’s helped me a few times in life
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I have tried using that pros and cons techniques from time to time.
It sure helps
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Thank you for your feedback. I will use that. That is really a good idea 😊😊
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I’ve heard a lot of people say something like that. But just because there are more “pros” or more “cons”, does not mean that it is the right thing to do.
“Sometimes it is not enough to do our best; we must do what is required.” – Sir Winston Churchill.
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fair enough
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That’s was so true.
Enjoyed reading
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Thank you! I am glad you enjoyed 😁😁
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I did…
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Great silence msg.
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Thank you! Just exploring my options!!!
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I like to explore…!
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That is a very good. We can always find new things out…
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Yes my dear frnd.
Frnd i was slept at night. So we couldn’t talk. 😢
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It is completely alright. There are going to be so many more Sundays to come. You need your rest to gain energy. Aren’t I correct?
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Hmmm. Ur answer is full of positive approach…! Impressive my dear. Yes u are right.
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Well, what can I say. I try to be as positive as I can. That is a good thing though, isn’t it?
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Really good and i observe positive attitude helps for long term relationship. U do right.
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Yes, negativity is a relationship breaker. We all need to be encouraged, not discouraged…
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Yes. And this world of WordPress always gives encourge in shape of u people.
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Yes Tahir, you are once again right. It is amazing that we have such an amazing, supporting and encouraging community as wordpress!
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Yes Rebecca, we can put our problems here on WordPress and this family helps us to resolve issue. So i love all.
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Yes. They give solutions to all our unresolved problems. I am glad you love everyone 🙂
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bcz many times my some blogging frnds personally resolved my issues or guided me. So i feel them all.
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That is good. It is nice when someone can help us, or comfort us through our difficult time.
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Yes. That person always have space in our life.
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Yes. Too bad people around us cant be supportive of us the way the people on here are!
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Yep. Agreed. I have same experiences.
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Some people unfortunately just don’t understand.
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Hmmm. Unfortunately those people will also remain for our lessons.
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You couldn’t be more correct Tahir. Those people are our lessons, we just have to be smart enough and not make the same mistakes over again.
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I agree with u Rebecca.
We should be so smart to do same mistakes.
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You mean, WE shouldn’t make the same mistakes over again?
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Yes. If we feel one person deceive us we should avoid to trust him/her again.
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I think that is right. If you forgive that person once they will think they can make the same mistake over and over again.
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Yes my dear u are absolutely right. So always be Carefull.
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I am aware of that. Experience teaches you a lot. Do you know that you have to be careful?
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I wanna hurt so i careless. But i care a lot who care me.
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That is well said Tahir. Care for the people who care for you!
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Yes Rebecca i have strong believe on it.
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Well I find that very admirable, well done!
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Thanks u so much my dear frnd. One day u would like to talk me as i wish.
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Aren’t I talking to you right now for the past 2 hours?
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hahah. I know u are talking but i wanna listen ur thoughts. 😉
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What do you mean by you want to listen to my thoughts?
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Nothing any meaning dear.
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Ok. If there was no meaning why did you offer?
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Okz dear i told u..!👍
I mean to say i wanna listen ur thoughts in ur voice. When we will call.
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Ahh, now I understand what you mean. You want to hear my voice, now that makes sense
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yup. In simple words. And my words always have complicated meanings. Hahah
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Really? I better understand better next time, Right?
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Yup, some time my words meanings depend on my mood. So i hope we both will understand each other with the passge of time.
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I hope so too. I wouldn’t feel happy if I misunderstand what you are saying. But right now I don’t think we have any communication troubles, do we?
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Yes, you are right. We have no any communication trouble.
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I am very glad in that case. To bad we don’t have any other place to chat on 🙁🙁
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Dear Rebecca, definitely u are right.
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What can I say. I am so glad you think I am all the time right 😊😄😄
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I think right is right and when you will tell me wrong then i will also told you it is wrong..its the beauty of friendship..!
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Once again you are right. I am glad we can see eye to eye on so many things…
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yes my dear we are and good friends are blessing..!
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Such a tough situation. You got some good advice above. Best of luck.
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Yeah, but now is the time to make the right decision. Do I or do I not?
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Great post and you are not alone as we all have experienced the same. I firmly believe the truth does set us free and when we approach it with a loving heart and mind it will set both free. Thank you for sharing… I do hope your speaking out has healed all wounds…
Hugs from Canada
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Yes, all my wounds have healed. Truth is always better than a lie.
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😊😊
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Yes silence….. always and everlasting
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True! Happy New Year to you!😊😊
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nice.. very relatable 🙂 hope all worked out!
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Thank you for thinking so. Well, in life something’s don’t work out for certain reasons, and looking back is no longer an option 🙂
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True… it’s best to move on and live for the present
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Well said! We cannot stay stuck in a time if we see there will be no improvement 🙂
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